Counselor's Corner

Counselor's Corner

September 9, 2019

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) has issued a Statement of Endorsement supporting the American Academy of Sleep Medicine (AASM) guidelines outlining recommended sleep duration for children from infants to teens. The guidelines, "Recommended Amount of Sleep for Pediatric Populations" will be published June 13 in the Journal of Clinical Sleep Medicine. The AAP endorses the guidelines and encourages pediatricians to discuss these recommendations and healthy sleep habits with parents and teens during clinical visits.

The consensus group recommends the following sleep hours:

· Infants 4 months to 12 months should sleep 12 to 16 hours per 24 hours (including naps) on a regular basis to promote optimal health.

· Children 1 to 2 years of age should sleep 11 to 14 hours per 24 hours (including naps) on a regular basis to promote
optimal health.

· Children 3 to 5 years of age should sleep 10 to 13 hours per 24 hours (including naps) on a regular basis to promote optimal health.

· Children 6 to 12 years of age should sleep 9 to 12 hours per 24 hours on a regular basis to promote optimal health.

· Teenagers 13 to 18 years of age should sleep 8 to 10 hours per 24 hours on a regular basis to promote optimal health.

In addition to these recommendations, the AAP
suggests that all screens be turned off 30 minutes before bedtime and that TV, computers and other screens not be allowed in children's bedrooms. For infants and young children, establishing a bedtime routine is important to ensuring children get adequate sleep each night. The AAP program, "Brush, Book, Bed," is available here:
http://bit.ly/bedroutine.

“Children who don’t get sufficient sleep at night, are more likely to be overactive and noncompliant, as well as being more withdrawn and anxious.”

There are some signs that parents can look for to determine whether their child could have a sleep problem. If a child has difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep, there could be a
problem. Other signs include snoring or other breathing problems while sleeping, having a tough time waking up in the morning, sleepiness during the day, problems paying attention, becoming very moody or grouchy, or acting without thinking.  To prevent sleep problems in children, parents should establish positive sleeping habits. These habits include setting a bedtime, having a consistent bedtime routine, and encouraging
children to fall asleep independently. In addition, keeping all electronics out of the bedroom will help children to get a good night’s sleep.

May 6, 2019

In today’s society, access to technology has become the everyday norm.  Most children have some form of technology in their home, whether it is a tablet, smart phone, or game system.  There are many sites and Apps that your children can browse, but knowing which sites are safe can be confusing. Here are some ideas to help when deciding which Apps are appropriate for your children.  

1. Frequently monitor your child’s device and the Apps downloaded on them.  If an App seems inappropriate for their age, delete it.

2. Set up a Passcode on their phone to make sure your child can only download what you approve of.  (This can be done under the Settings Heading)  

3. Find time to open and explore your child’s current Apps or Social Media sites.  Many are age restricted due to adult content or conversations.

4. Be aware that several Apps disguise themselves to look “kid friendly”, but are not.  You can do a search on each site to better understand its purpose as well as its safety features. **

5. Make sure your child’s Location is turned OFF on the Apps or Social Media site they frequently use.

 
*For more information on creating a password restriction for downloading Apps, go to: https://www.sunshineandhurricanes.com/iphone-parental-controls/

**For more information on which sites are safe for your children go to: http://smartsocial.com  Search:  Popular Teen Apps List for Parents and Teachers.

 

November 20,2018
Random acts of kindness
are just what their name suggests– actions, big or small, that are kind to others, and anyone can do them! It doesn’t matter if you’re young or old , rich or poor, or short or tall. Every single person can perform random acts of kindness every single day, and just one small act can inspire others to do the same and can change someone’s life for the better! Here are some examples of simple ways to perform random acts of kindness:

  • Give someone a compliment
  • Pick up litter
  • Hold a door for someone
  • Donate something to a worthy cause
  • Lend a hand to someone who needs it
  • Do an extra chore
  • Give a hug
  • Write someone a kind note
  •  Smile

Discussions to Have at  Home:

  • What random act of kindness can you do right now?
  •  How does it make you feel when you do something kind for another person?
  • Do you think random acts of kindness can change  people’s lives or make this world a friendlier place? Why or why not?

Empathy is trying to understand what another person is feeling. It is seeing the world through another’s eyes. It helps people to get along and feel better.

Having empathy is a key ingredient to becoming the best person you can be. You can practice empathy by:

  • ·Listening to someone rather than trying to talk to them
  • Asking someone how they are feeling if you think there is something wrong
  • Learning about people from different backgrounds and cultures
  • Showing care and concern for others
  • Paying attention to the needs of others
  • Getting to know someone better instead of judging them
  • Ideas on how to talk to your child about the value of being randomly kind, showing compassion, and being  empathetic...
  • What does empathy mean to you? What are some ways you have shown empathy to others?
  • What people do you know that display a lot of empathy towards others? How do they do so?

 

Good Study Habits for Elementary Students 
October 8, 2018

Here are some tips to help your child learn helpful study habits for school:
 

  • You and your child should check the backpack daily.  If the child has a planner, look at it. Ask about school.
  • Decide a good time for your child to study.  Some youngsters need a break after school, others do better by getting right to homework.  
  • Keep the Study time consistent each day.  This will create less of a power struggle, and will create a healthy habit.
  • Prepare homework space with few distractions and necessary items...water bottle? a snack? box of ready materials? This way your child can get right to work, complete it, and move on.
  • Decide on a good place to study.  Turn off the TV and limit all screentime to under 15 minutes for every hour they are home and awake.
  • Make sure that your child is focused on the work. By checking progress, asking them to show you what they are working on, showing interest and investment in wht they are learning at school.
  • Break the homework down, taking breaks if needed.

Starting good study habits now will help the child’s entire school career!

 

Growth Mindset

Our brains act like a muscle- the more we use it, the stronger and smarter it gets!
There are two approaches to learning, achievement and success.

Fixed Mindset- belief that qualities, such as intelligence, are fixed traits. An example you might hear from your child is “I’ll never be good at math”. This is a fixed mindset!

Some more examples of fixed mindset are:

  • Avoiding challenges
  • Giving up easily
  • Ignoring feedback

Growth Mindset- A person who has a growth mindset embraces challenges and believes they can achieve and be successful through hard work and dedication. Examples of growth mindset are:

  • Giving their best effort
  • Believing they can overcome obstacles
  • Learning from feedback

Ways to Encourage growth mindset at home:

  • Talk to your child about his or her day. “Did you make a mistake today? What did you learn?” “What did you do that was difficult today?”
  • ‚ÄčLet your child know that it is ok to fail. Failure provides opportunities for learning!
  • Praise the process! “Wow! You have worked so hard on that!”
  • Help them change their dialogue: Instead of “I can't do this! It is too hard!” Encourage them to think “I can’t do this yet, but I will keep trying”

 

Michigan Child Protection Registry
Frequently Asked Questions PDF Document

The Michigan Child Protection Registry was created by the Michigan State Legislature in 2004 as a do-not-contact service for Michigan families. The Michigan Child Protection Registry is a free, state administered program that allows Michigan's families to protect their households from adult-oriented messages.